小明跳舞

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小明跳舞

這天,小明在學校裡頭學了一支舞,回家之後興沖沖地跳給奶奶看。可是小明實在跳得不怎麼樣,而且有幾個動作怎麼跳也跳不好,奶奶看了之後,其實很想嘆氣,但又一直告訴自己「要鼓勵孩子」,於是想了想之後,就告訴小明:「小明啊,你這支舞跳得不錯,比奶奶跳得好多了!」

我們東方人、尤其是華人的父母親,要學會少批評,少責怪孩子,多一些鼓勵和讚美。如果孩子正處在失敗的低谷,需要別人向上拉他一把,不要用粗暴的語言,向下打壓他。一句正面積極的鼓勵,就能讓他再繼續努力;一句負面貶低的話,有可能讓他更加否定自己,萎靡不振。這個奶奶的讚美,雖然有點讓人哭笑不得,但總比讓孩子繼續生氣強多了!





Xiao Ming dance

Xiao Ming learned a dance in school and went home to dance for his grandmother. However, he couldn’t dance well, and there were a few steps that he couldn’t do right. After seeing him dance, Grandma wanted to sigh, but she kept reminding herself to "encourage the child." After some thoughts, she told Xiao Ming: "Xiao Ming, you danced well, much better than Grandma!"

Oriental parents, especially the Chinese, must learn to encourage and praise their children more, and not only criticize or blame their children. If the child is in the lows of life, he needs someone to lift him up, don’t use rude language, and belittle him. A positive encouragement may be what it takes for him to continue with his efforts. On the other hand, a negative word when he is feeling low may make him feel even more negative and weak. Although the praise of this grandmother might sound ridiculous, is much better than letting the child be discouraged!

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孩子兴冲冲地要跳舞给奶奶看,这就是幸福快乐的能量啊!
若奶奶能看到这份幸福和快乐,就会和孙子一起沉浸在这份幸福快乐的爱的能量里。
此时,奶奶会感恩孙子带给她幸福和快乐......这份沉浸当下的快乐,这份自然而然的感恩,即是爱的流动。

可惜,很多人都失去了“看见快乐”的能力,只剩下评判跳得好还跳得不好的念头。 本帖最後由 清静莲花 於 2018-11-25 20:51 編輯

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@ 李雪爱与自由  
11月5日 19:12 来自 初心心理的iPhone客户端
当孩子感受不到父母的真情,就会想要报恩。真情指的是真实能量上的流动链接。当能量指向对方,对方敞开心接受,本身即是喜悦滋养,当下平衡。如果没有这份链接,付出就是对自身能量的损耗,需要对方也损耗自己来回报平衡,所以有“剔骨还肉”的说法[摊手]。为人父母,让自己和孩子愉快,比付出重要一万倍 ​​​​。

人世间最大的孤独:你可以勒紧裤腰带只为送我进重点高中,我可以为你放弃好的发展机会回老家照养你,但是我们从来不曾看见过彼此,从来不曾感受过温暖的流动[二哈]

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